A brand new chapter for this volume (no prior version of this chapter existed for AM’s forebear), Ch. B explains where Aspie Mouse comes from, as we meet his mother and four siblings; he leaves home, finds the mouse version of MIT (university), gets his present name, impresses everyone with his abilities, and graduates with a “Mouster’s” degree, ready to find his place in the world, armed with new maturity and tools (literal & figurative).
On 8/27/21, Chapter B’s overhaul/ revision was completed — adding panel separations, making balloon text more uniform in size, and resizing to better fit a typical graphic novel 5-1/2″ x 8″ trim size when reduced — most importantly, it expanded from 10 pages (and then 12 a year ago) to 26 pages, with additional material added almost everywhere, but especially on his life at his original home with his mom and siblings and then the classes he takes at the Mouse “MIT.” Now only Chapter C needs a similar upgrade in trim size, panel separation & text uniformity (now underway) — though unlike Ch. B, Ch. C’s length will only grow slightly.
Notes for Chapter B, “Leaving the Nest for ‘M.I.T.‘”
This chapter is brand new for this volume. It explains where Aspie Mouse came from (we meet his mother and siblings), how he got the name Aspie Mouse, and how he got his education. It’s therefore first in this work’s sequence, before Ch. A (for why, see Ch. A or the notes after the table of contents in “Front Matter”). Only one line (“Oh boy! Two cats! Double fun!”) in Ch. B is directly borrowed from a comic book the author wrote for Aspie Mouse’s forebear decades ago. How those two cats just referenced fail to capture AM is also similar to that earlier work. No other elements in this chapter come from the earlier comic book series.
Expansion of this chapter from its original 10-page version of June, 2019 — to 12 in September, 2020 — and now 26 pages — started by adding a section on saying goodbye to his siblings and meeting an outdoor cat. That goodbye helps set up the return of his brother D and sister E in Ch. G. Sister E then continues to appear in Chapters H & I. Other additions to Ch. B include breaking down AM’s “interview” for the mouse “MIT” into smaller chunks and showing more of what AM experiences both in and outside of his classes at the mouse “MIT,” one of which relates to an event in Chapter H (and Ch. A) that tests the reader’s mystery-solving skills in a Question asked first after Ch. A, then again after Ch. H.
Ch. B’s topic expansions also open doors to asking more in-class and/ or end-of-chapter questions on living situations and family (including siblings) — for mice; later (Ch’s C &D), the sibling questions will refer to humans. Ch’s. A, C, G & H also deal with moving to a new home.
This is also a great chapter to notice several more of Aspie Mouse’s Autism traits. For example, on pages B-6, B-8 & B-24, we see AM “flapping” when excited, a common Aspie behavior. Because he’s at a school where many of the students (and faculty) have Autism, nobody even comments on it! In situations with Neurotypical mice in subsequent chapters, it will not be overlooked. Another trait found in many with Autism is taking others’ words at face value, missing the irony or satire: several times in this work, Aspie Mouse confuses “literally” with talking about literature, the first times coming in this chapter.
Also, by adding something in this revision/ expansion about each of the seven courses Aspie Mouse studies, plus two of his class day lunches, several opportunities arise to discuss a universal concern for most Aspies: how clueless Aspie Mouse seems to be as to how to behave with other mice in “expected” ways in social situations.
On the positive side, we see how inventive AM is — finding novel ways to solve problems that just don’t occur to others, often doing so on the spot in high pressure situations. What’s ironic is that many with Autism function best in actual physical emergencies — where they’re LESS likely to panic, but instead shift immediately to problem-solving mode — yet seem paralyzed and unable to make a decision when the issue isn’t a “life or death” crisis, but rather something that needs a decision, vs. solving a problem, or it’s a “crisis” invented in their own mind. That’s one reason people with Autism — especially if they also have ADD or ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder/ Difference), which 3/4 of those with Autism also have (again, “Been there …” by Attwood et al) — often make excellent EMT’s, first responders, etc.
Another trait of many with Autism that comes through is AM’s generosity. It’s a trait many Aspies possess, contradicting the impression that all those with Autism are “selfish.” What is true is that this generosity is more evident when anxiety is relatively low.
What feeds the “selfishness” narrative is that it’s often less noticed due to the higher visibility and pervasiveness of a trait that causes a lot of problems for nearly everyone with Autism: Anxiety! It’s by no means uniquely found in the Autism community: the Author believes anxiety is so dominant in modern society generally that he thinks a book on “The Anxious Society and What to Do About It” needs to be written to address its influence on consumer behavior, religion and politics. However, those with Autism, rate it the #1 issue in terms of how universal a problem it is: it tends to linger longer (often always there for many, even if not crippling most of the time) and how anxiety spikes more quickly, more often and more overwhelmingly for those with Autism (source: “Been There, Done That …” by Tony Attwood, see references). It’s more likely to gum up an Aspie’s executive function. Questions B-3 through B-12 provide good material to discuss these Autistic traits in class or one-to-one.
Questions B-3/2,3,4 are attempts to help readers deal with their own self-esteem issues by showing self-esteem questions through the eyes of Aspie Mouse. How self-esteem can be raised: based on the work of Carl Jung, it’s said that one’s “shadow” (the parts of oneself that are hidden from view, especially of oneself) — specifically, the concept of “projection” — I get triggered by someone else’s behavior because it reminds me of a part of myself I’m avoiding facing in myself. It can be a positive trait (something I do well, but was told “not to put on airs” while growing up, so I avoid admitting it) or (more likely) a negative one (I don’t want to admit to my own out-of-control behaviors, so I get angry when someone else behaves that way). Ignoring my “projection” hurts self-esteem (especially if negative), and gives me problems by blaming others. Even if it’s positive, I’m still left with an unrealistic view of the world. That’s why “It’s what you think, it’s not about me” is a powerful retort, even if said silently. I won’t “let in” what’s a projection, though I can examine to see what of it fits and take that in, while rejecting the rest. Or as is said in 12-step rooms, “Others’ opinions of me are none of my business.” What I can let in without needing such a “shield” is pure love — positive things being said without any agenda, from one human being to another — neither putting the other person down or placing them on a pedestal.
The answer to Question B-8-5 is any variation of the message, “You wouldn’t be happy here”/ “You probably wouldn’t fit here,” or in the extreme, “Why don’t you go back where you came from?” All of which are unfair and can be quite hurtful, though that isn’t Toe/ Hashtag’s intent! I, this work’s author, heard “Why don’t you go back where you came from?” addressed to me by an insurance agent from the old upper class of Syracuse, a city much more laid-back than my native NYC. The agent was exasperated that, as insurance underwriter I’d turned down insuring one of his clients. It was my first job after college, and I laughed it off at the time. As a young primarily Northern European-descended cis-gendered Christian white male with an Ivy League pedigree, I figured I deserved to see what it felt like to be treated the way so many less fortunate than I were treated — unwanted, not for anything they did, but for a “group” they belonged to. I didn’t know then that Autism was what drove me to say so many undiplomatic things — but other things I said ultimately got me fired from two insurance companies in 2-1/2 years! Toe/ Hashtag isn’t saying this to AM out of prejudice or to hurt him, but out of genuine concern for him. Still, her opinions could have the effect of limiting AM’s choices — if he listens to her from love or respect for her, instead of what his heart tells him he should do. Yet in all likelihood, he’d come to the same conclusion as Hashtag in this situation, as she’s probably right.
I, the author, had a cousin who was pushed toward vocational high school because he wasn’t “smart enough” for an academic high school. He made a good living as a tool & die-maker, eventually starting his own business. His eldest son later became an accountant (a profession known for high intelligence scores), then Chief Financial Officer, then bought & ran a manufacturing business! In hindsight, I think the dad cousin was plenty smart, but probably had an undiagnosed learning disability!
The “You wouldn’t be happy here”/ “Why don’t you go back where you came from?” argument was (& is) used to discourage women & minorities from entering certain high-paying “white male” professions, or moving to certain towns or neighborhoods. Might it be at least part of the reason people diagnosed with falling on the Autism Spectrum average 70-80% unemployment/ underemployment rates? Or — as was true for me (the author) — is the unemployment more related to the way we act (including flapping, swaying, etc.) or speak (interrupting others often) without realizing we’re breaking some social taboo?
Back to when I, the author, had been recently transferred to Syracuse by my first post-college employer (insurance company), and I was looking for an apartment to rent. I was turned down as a tenant in a two-family house by the owners who lived downstairs. Why? Because I was a young single male — and therefore, in the view of the owners, likely to have loud drinking parties, which they wanted to avoid! Once again, I had to laugh, because I don’t drink, I had no friends in town, and I can count the number of parties I’ve given in my own home at any time in my life on one hand. It was just prejudice! Worked out better for me, as that apartment had the shortest bathtub I’d ever seen, and the one I ended up renting was in an old (if not well kept-up) mansion, in which I had the master bathroom, containing the largest bathtub I’ve ever seen! Even better, I had a fascinating next-door neighbor — who I’m now SURE was Autistic — who really enriched my life.
In terms of career choices for those with Autism, the quote given at the bottom of page 23, “Genius does what it must, and talent does what it can,” is one of the author’s favorites. Its source is a 19th Century English Politician, Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton. The author believes that, for someone with Autism, it’s particularly important to discover which “special interest” they have that is good enough to lead to a career, whether at genius or talent level. Seek your strongest special interest — the one that both gives you joy and which others have said you do better than anyone else they know — and seek an employer who needs that skill. Just have a bunch of “pretty good” interests instead? Do what you can to find somewhere that needs just your particular combination of skills (see the great job-seeking book, “What Color is Your Parachute?”), because you’re much more likely to be talented, rather than a genius like Einstein or Mozart.
My (the author’s) father frequently said, “Get a profession — law, medicine, college professor, engineer, etc. — and then pursue something like drama, writing, music as a sideline, as Sir Arthur Conan Doyle did with Sherlock Holmes. And if it succeeds, great. If not, — so you have something solid to fall back on.” Sounds great — if one is both ambitious and Neurotypical! But for me, it wasn’t good advice, because it took every ounce of energy I had to succeed in the business world, because while I had great results — provided I had a boss who could protect me from saying all the wrong things to the wrong people — it often took two years before my unorthodox methods finally showed results; by which time, in most jobs, I was already gone — fired! So while I discovered I did have a talent for helping authors write successful textbooks, I lay my cartooning aside for decades, which I now judge was a mistake.
From a career security standpoint, I regret not staying with that first textbook publisher, because as mad as the later bosses were with my impudent words, I was their most successful acquisitions editor. They enticed me to leave by eliminating the editorial “results” bonus, because I was the only editor profiting from it! I was an artisan, not destined (or even a good idea, as I learned the hard way) to be a manager of others. I had 11 years at that first publisher, four years at my next, 6-1/2 years at my third, before being fired after a merger by the same people who’d shown me the door 6-1/2 years earlier(!). At age 46, I never again had a paying full-time job or one with benefits that lasted more than 15 months. Now I know that losing jobs regularly is the all-too-common fate of so many with Autism — many others never find a “real” job at all!
Near the end of the chapter, the interaction between Toe/ Hashtag and Aspie Mouse shows a common issue in Autistic communication : misunderstanding based on conflicted feelings — often unidentified feelings. This is also addressed in Question B-10. The idea being proposed by the author — based both on the work of Carl Jung and of many self-help organizations — is that there are four core feelings: joy, sadness, anger and fear; and two key combinations in some viewpoints, or two separate feelings in others: love and shame. What often happens with Aspie’s — as we’ll see often in subsequent chapters — is that they get anxious (a form of fear); when they do, they turn inward, feel alone/ betrayed/ lack trust, etc., and are unable to be “objective” about what just “triggered” the anxiety, can’t stay present — and their executive function shuts down! This is what we see happen, especially for Toe/ Hashtag. But it’s also present for AM, because he can’t identify what that “sinking feeling” in his stomach is — likely more sadness than fear, but probably some of each. Helping readers identify their own feelings through the characters in this graphic novel is a goal of the author!
Stranger than fiction #1: On the last page of the chapter, Phil laments that when students graduate from the mouse MIT, they scatter without saying goodbye, hugging, etc. The basis of it: I, the author, was with a group of MIT alumni friends (though I didn’t go to MIT myself, I have more friends from there than from where I DID go to college) ending a celebration for an out-of-town friend’s visit. They just left, with no ceremony, no goodbye’s — much to the consternation of a Neurotypical woman present (she had abandonment issues); she couldn’t understand how they could just leave each other like that, when they might not see each other again for months or even years. The author later realized that many (maybe even most) Autistic people don’t see the need for long goodbyes. They’re glad to see their friends, and will be glad to see them again, but when it’s time to leave, they’re ready to move on to the next thing – alone! Get-togethers aren’t all that big a deal! And why bother taking the lead in organizing one? The irony is OTHER Aspie’s feel lonely a lot (I was an only child, so I would try to “collect” friends, and to some extent still do), so they invite the “ho hum” Aspies to an event, where the “ho hum” Aspies (like my son!) often act glad they were invited (but if not interested in the event, may say no — the friend may not be reason enough). Other places showing Aspie Mouse & others showing “ho-hum, OK, bye” behavior: Ch’s D, G, F & I. It’s addressed in Q B-11 (3 & 4)
Questions for Thought/ Discussion: Ch. B, “Leaving the Nest for ‘M.I.T.‘”
B 1: (Similar to Q. D1) Aspie Mouse likes where he lives, but Momma wants him out.
a. What do you like about where you live? Dislike?
b. When do you prefer being alone? When would prefer being around other people? c. Which specific person or people (if any) would you rather be around most or all the time?
d. Are you (or if younger, Do you plan to be) living on your own or staying with your parents after you finish your school work? Which would your parents prefer that you do? If these wants are different, does it cause stress, and how do you handle stress?
e. Do you judge your parents understand your needs in terms of having Autism? Or if you don’t have Autism, answer this question generally (do your parents understand what do you need)? Do you think you have tools to increase understanding of you if they initially didn’t “get” you?
f. How did you react when AM’s mom literally “kicked him out” of the house? What feelings came up for you? What do you wish AM could do or would do instead of “taking it” — or are you glad for him, seeing how he ended up after being kicked out?
g. Do you have pets at home? If more than one, do you have a favorite? Do pets respond well to you? Why do you think a pet may prefer one member of the household to another if that appears to be true?
B 2: (Similar to Q. D 2) Aspie Mouse lives with four siblings: brother D, sisters B, C & E.
a. If you live or lived with one or more other children growing up, especially if one or more are non-Autistic (Neurotypical), how do/ did you and they get along?
b. Same situation (grew up with other kids, Autistic or not): Was there jealousy — complaints about fairness — about parents’ treatment about achievement, abilities, success, attention, and how rules were applied to you vs. them? Do/ did such complaints go both ways, or did you or another child complain a lot more, at least in your memory? Would the other child(ren) likely agree on who complained more?
c. If you’re an only child, did you wish you had a brother or sister or both? How might life have been different? If you grew up with other kids at home, did you often wish you were an only child? How might life have been different? If you’re in a group to share these responses with, are you surprised to hear how the situation different from what you experienced was for those other(s) growing up?
d. Did you experience comments like Mama makes to all the siblings, that she’s glad to get rid of them because they fight so much, etc.? Have your parents made such comments about you? If so, how has it affected you? If not, are you now grateful they didn’t? How might comments like that have a lasting effect on someone’s self-esteem (how they feel about themself)? What might be a better way for Mama to handle her frustrations than insulting her “grown-up” offspring as to how they were as youngsters?
e. (Will go into further depth with this subject in Question D 3, 2 chapters later and again after Ch. H): How do you think Aspie Mouse feels when 3 of his 4 siblings call him “names” and say they’d rather he be gone? Has this been an issue between you and your siblings (if you have) and/ or schoolmates (name-calling)? How have you handled it?
f. Do you believe sibling issues are different (better? worse? the same?) in homes where none of the children have Autism or other situation where some of their brains operate differently from most people’s?
B 3: In this chapter, Aspie Mouse first shows a number of Autistic traits in the first chapter chronologically (prior Ch. A is an out-of-place “preview” of half of Ch. H).
- Aspie Mouse has trouble remembering names, even with their initials on their chest, for both his sister E and “Head Mouster Phil.’ Is this a problem you have? Is that all the time or only at certain times? Do you mix people up or not recognize faces (often, seldom, never)? What ways do you try to make up for these, if problems? When someone can’t remember YOUR name, does it bother you? Do you think they don’t care about you?
- We see Aspie Mouse “flap” when he gets excited (3 times: can you locate which pages?). Is that a trait you have? How else might you physically show Autism in terms of movement (swaying back & forth, throwing head back, etc.). If you don’t have Autism, does this disturb you? If you do have Autism and don’t have this trait, does it disturb you? If you have Autism, does your OWN movement trait(s) bother you? Why do you think the others at the Mouse MIT don’t seem to comment on AM’s flapping?
- Aspie Mouse also has low self-esteem (doesn’t feel good about himself), based on how his mother and three siblings treat him when he’s leaving; AM admits to Head Mouster Phil that his family thought AM was a “moustake.” Can you relate to AM in your own life? Who’s told you, either obviously or by deeds if not words, that you aren’t “good enough” as you are? Has it made you a better person or made it harder for you to gain confidence? Or are you one of the lucky folks not to be “put down” by your parents? How can you counter “not good enough” messages in your head? (Also see B-3-3 & 4 & Question B-11).
- What do you think of the idea — popular with many adult “self-help programs” — that when other people complain about “who you are” — not how you behave (which is fair, especially if it focuses on how your behavior impacted them) — IT’S ABOUT THEM. Might it be something they don’t like about THEMSELVES, but they blame it on you because they don’t want to see it in themselves?
- (Continuing from 3): The result of being told “you ARE a mistake” is very damaging. What’s the key difference between believing that “I AM a mistake,” instead of “I MADE a mistake”? The shame coming from “I made a mistake” is appropriate; the shame that comes from “I am a mistake” is toxic/ deadly and NOT TRUE!
- Have you had something good happen — as when Aspie Mouse is admitted to “M.I.T.” — that shows you are very much wanted in this world and do something well? Whether you’ve had that experience or not, how may you overcome others’ negative opinions of you, or decide not to let them rule your life?
- Do you have a special interest that isn’t always appreciated by others who know you well, such as Aspie Mouse has in making language translation apps?
- Aspie Mouse is quite smart and rather good with spoken words, but has trouble reading letters, especially if they’re not being used in words, but just initials. Do you have any reading issues or word usage issues? Did you know they’re common for “Aspies”? What techniques do you use to make up for/ hide your confusion?
B 4: When Aspie Mouse stumbles into the “Rodent MIT,” he has to pass an admissions “test.”
- When Aspie Mouse tells Head Mouster Phil he likes to play with cats, why do you think Phil’s response is, “… you are strange enough, you might just belong here?” Have you ever found a place where people with Autism are actually preferred or in the majority? How did that work out for you? If you haven’t found such a place, would you like to find one?
- When Phil asks AM to recreate his human-rodent programming translation, he was astonished how quickly and how well AM did it. Do you have a special interest that when you show it to the right people gets an impressive and astonished response? If not, do you have some interest you feel good enough about that you know it will help your self-esteem and even possibly career prospects?
- Aspie Mouse takes Head Mouster Phil’s words “I’m pulling your leg” literally, not seeing it as an idiomatic expression. Do you take things “too literally,” as AM does with “pulling … leg” and then, when told he’s being “too literal,” assumes it’s about being literary? What other problems have you faced in not recognizing when someone’s being ironic or just using an “expression”?
- In confessing he was “pulling AM’s leg,” Head Mouster Phil was covering up some shame. Do you ever “add” to the truth to cover up shame? Or do you just say nothing? Or do you just lie? How do you deal with shame? What’s a good way to combat feelings of shame?
- Throughout the chapter, AM can’t keep the order straight of Head Mouster Phil’s name. Why do you think Head Mouster Phil didn’t comment on that to AM?
B 5: Once admitted to “MIT,” Aspie Mouse is asked to be on the team to get dinner from “upstairs.”
- Toe/ Hashtag has a very negative attitude toward Aspie Mouse because he’s male. Why is she so negative toward male mice, from what we can tell? What helps her change her mind about AM?
- Have you experienced someone who has a “prejudice” against you because of anything (race, gender, Autism, etc.) and were able to “overcome” that prejudice? If not, did you try or did you just avoid that person? Have you been prejudiced against someone else and changed your mind? Why or why not?
- Why do you think Aspie Mouse manages to stay alive despite believing cats make great playmates for him — at least in this chapter? Do you do anything “dangerous” that others seem more afraid for your safety more than you are?
- Aspie Mouse is “rewarded” for getting the food — but he said he’d rather have something else. Do you have very particular food preferences, as AM does, or do you eat pretty much everything? What do you think accounts for which ever way you are around food? What problems did you have being younger if you have particular food preferences? Have you become more open to foods you didn’t like when younger? How did that happen if it did?
B 6: Aspie Mouse needs to “catch up” with the other rostudents because he’s starting classes two weeks after the beginning. He seems to be doing pretty well.
- Have you been transferred to a different class, school or situation where you were starting from behind? How well did you handle it? What support did you get if so? Also if so, what support did you need that you didn’t get?
- Notice how for the first three morning classes, and the middle class in the afternoon (#6 of 7, “Pleasing Professors … Pellets,”) Aspie Mouse reacts sarcastically to the title of the course, who’s teaching it, the equipment being used in the lab, etc. Does he seem to realize — or care — that he’s offending these course instructors? Explain how AM sometimes overcomes the instructor’s anger over his “fun-making” — by “putting his money where his mouth is.”
- Have you gotten in trouble or gotten bad reactions from teachers or others — for what you said about a class? Are you then able to overcome your unfortunate comments by doing things that make up for your verbal goofs? Have you tried to correct a teacher in front of a class? If so, how did that go? Do you say things like these and then later feel shame? What’s a good way to reduce the shame?
- Have you tried to correct another student’s comments in class, before the teacher could or before being asked? If so, how did that go? Do you think you may have lost a friend or potential friend for saying something in a class or other group social situation that may have made that other person feel bad? What might be a better way for you to offer constructive correction to a teacher — or a fellow student — instead of speaking out in class or in front of everyone? Again, did this lead to shame?
- Did you anticipate how Aspie Mouse would “solve” the problems presented in the first two morning classes before he solved them? Is this kind of “out of the box” problem-solving something you’re good at? Did you anticipate how AM might try to make his “grab your own lunch” process easier before he did it?
- In what areas are you particularly good at solving problems that seem hard for other people, but not you? In what areas do you struggle solving problems that others seem to solve more easily? How do you react when you struggle at what others find easier to do?
- Another trait very often found in those with Autism is pattern-seeking — which can often lead to solving problems in unique ways. How does Aspie Mouse show unique pattern-seeking abilities in this chapter, especially in classes? How have you benefited from pattern-seeking behaviors in your life (if you have)?
- Pattern-seeking also has a negative side, especially when we to put people in boxes or categories based on race, national or regional background, gender, name, etc. What are examples of Autistic characters doing this in this chapter (about mice especially, but maybe also about people)? What are examples of non-Autistic characters doing this (because non-Autistic people have been doing this to other people for a long time)? How has trying to put people into categories caused problems in your life? What might you do to break this habit — especially with people? At least, what can you do to avoid offending others (how to keep your thoughts about this to yourself)? Why is it important NOT to put people in categories in today’s society?
B 7: Aspie Mouse also interacts with his peers in his classes and at lunch. Displaying bad table manners and lacking awareness of how his behavior affects other mice, AM ends up in some awkward situations.
- How does Aspie Mouse try to explain away his bad table manners? Why do other students seem willing to put up with his lack of table manners and eat with him anyway?
- Do you struggle understanding the importance of table manners, good hygiene (bathing, grooming, use of deodorant and breath mints) and other unwritten “rules” of conduct in social situations? Do you understand how it could affect the outcome of job interviews and retaining employment? Or are you glad your parents instilled good table manners, hygiene & other social norms into you, whether or not you saw the point of it at the time?
- Show examples in this chapter where Aspie Mouse’s positive Autistic traits help overcome the poor social skills he shows at lunch and in his classes.
- In his fifth class (first after lunch), Natalie “accuses” AM of “Malemousplaining” (for people, it’s called “mansplaining,” where men seem to assume women need them to explain something — without ever asking first. If you are male, do you have a tendency to over-explain things, especially to females? If you are female, do you have trouble with males who keep talking and not listen enough? Or do you see the opposite — women talking a lot more? If you identify as other than male or female — or you’re trans — what’s your experience with this issue?
- On the other hand, can you find an example in this chapter of a “role reversal” — in which a negative social trait often associated with males is shown by a female on the Autism Spectrum?
B 8: Aspie Mouse has several interactions with Toe/ Hashtag in their shared last two classes of the day. In this and the next question (B-9), questions about their interactions will follow. We start with their 6th Period Class, “Pleasing Professors to Produce Pellets.”
- Why did Aspie Mouse originally sign up for this class — what did he think he’d be doing afterwards? Why did Hashtag sign up for this class? Who is disappointed and why? Who isn’t disappointed and why?
- Toe/ Hashtag says she thinks AM isn’t “grateful” enough. Why? AM disagrees. Why?
- How did you react when Aspie Mouse said he couldn’t be a lab mouse because he’s gray, whereas lab mice are all white? Does he have a point? Does his complaint remind you of anything in the human world?
- What reason(s) does Toe/ Hashtag give for why AM is not a suitable lab mouse, beyond any issue around color? What’s AM’s reaction?
- Summarize the final reason/ argument Toe/ Hashtag gives for discouraging AM for wanting to be a human lab mouse (on p. B-22 lower left panel, following “besides …”) in a simple sentence of 10 words or fewer (even better if as few as 5 words).
- Toe/ Hashtag is well-meaning when she discourages AM from becoming a “lab mouse.” But how might someone use the Question B-5 argument to discourage someone else from: buying a house or renting an apartment in a given neighborhood/ applying for a job or to go to a prestigious college/ high school, etc.?
- How might using this argument or story take attention away from or justify (make seem reasonable; help disguise) discomfort/ prejudice that the person in power has — about something superficial like race, gender, ethnicity, age or disability — about the applicant? Then how might the person in power use that argument to discourage an applicant (for the house, apartment, job) from moving forward?
- Have you experienced or known about such an argument used to discourage anyone in your or your family from moving forward in buying, renting, applying for a job or educational program? If you’re ever given that argument and (unlike AM) you believe it should be challenged, how might you do so?
B 9: Continuing with other Aspie Mouse/ Toe-Hashtag interactions toward the end of the chapter in their last class together — Mousatronic Floortop (Human Cell Phone) Programming Lab :
- Toe/ Hashtag claims she also has Autism, though unlike AM, she looks others in the eye, thus seems more socially connected. Autism often is harder to detect in females vs. males. Why do you think Autism in females may be harder to detect than in males?
- What trait(s) do you see in this chapter that show Toe/ Hashtag does indeed have Autism — if any?
- Aspie Mouse seems to overlook negative traits of others with Autism. Why do you think he does? How well do you overlook others’ negative traits? Why do you think you find that easy/ difficult to do? Do you find yourself comparing “how Autistic” you are versus others with Autism? Why is doing so either good or bad in your judgment?
- What common trait of many with Autism is Toe/ Hashtag not considering when she gets upset with AM for calling her “Toe” instead of “Hashtag?”
- What do you think of the quote Hashtag uses at the bottom of page B-23, “Genius does what it must; talent does what it can?”
B 10: The last interaction Aspie Mouse has with Toe/ Hashtag (pages 24-25) addresses the important issue of “miscommunication” between two people with Autism, when both are having strong feelings, but having trouble identifying those feelings.
- What feeling or feelings does Toe/ Hashtag likely have when Aspie Mouse asks her if she’s like to hang around? What do you think Toe/ Hashtag thinks AM means? How does that differ from what he wants?
- What feeling or feelings is AM feeling when he says he’s “confused” and thinks about why he’s confused?
- Can you identify with either character in this situation — or even both?
- What do you think would help make things clearer to either one of them?
- Have you had situations where you had feelings similar to either — and how did you handle it/ them? How do you wish you’d handled it/ them?
B 11: At the end of the chapter, the MIT “rostudents” graduate. (Also see Questions B3-2-5)
- Do you think either Aspie Mouse — or his family if they knew — would consider him a “moustake” (mistake) NOW after he finished tied for best student, even after a late start?
- Have you ever done something positive that’s changed others’ beliefs about you? Has that helped your self-esteem?
- What do you imagine Toe/ Hashtag thinks being tied for first place with AM? Do you think it will make a difference in how Toe/ Hashtag thinks of AM?
- When the students just “split” after the ceremonies are over — not bothering to say goodbye to the instructors or each other — is that how you are when you leave being with friends or at the end of a school year? Do you consider that behavior normal or unusual?
- Why does it matter — or NOT matter — whether you’ll see a friend or group again soon or not for a long time or maybe never again? Why do you think such behavior bothers folks without Autism?
- Do you tend to invite friends to events, play, etc.? Or do you wait until someone else does the inviting? If you wait, why do you not initiate contact?
- At the very end of the chapter, at graduation, Head Mouster Phil says, “We needed your innocence and ‘can do’ more than you needed us.” Why do you think he said that? What did he mean?
B 12: Per Question A 7: a list of common Autism traits, followed by two questions related to them:
- No eye contact
- Sensory sensitivity: noise, certain lights, smells & touch
- Voice Volume, Repetition & Variability
- Stimming (repetitive body or hand movements)
- Anxiety (fear) of social situations: responses of fight, flight or freeze
- Over-sensitivity: over-reaction or no visible reaction (mistaken as not caring)
- Pattern-seeking/ solving problems in unique ways
- Special Interest(s)
- Love routine/ dislike change
- Lack of Social Understanding
- Can’t remember names or faces, read body language etc.
- Not Showing or Over-showing Feelings
- Don’t Understand Jokes
- Difficulty getting & keeping friends, relationships & jobs
- Difficulty feeling safe
- Sharing one’s diagnosis — should I or not? When & where?
a. Which of these characteristics can you identify that Aspie Mouse or another Autistic character exhibits in this chapter — either negative or positive? How about a non-autistic character? Feel free to skip any characteristic already answered in chapter-specific questions above.
b. Do you see examples in this chapter of cats acting Autistic (or not)?